08 March 2014

Bitch.



I know you think I’m a bitch. I’ve only heard it more than a thousands time in the last few years. I know you think I’m over the top, too public, too unreasonable, too extreme, too bitchy. I know you think I’m scary and I know you think I’m intimidating. I know you’ve gone up to some of my “less extreme” and my “less feminist” and my “less intimidating” friends and complained about me. I know you’ve said that I post too much about things that aren’t important. Or that I whine too much. Or that I put up too many selfies. I know you believe I’m wrong about thinking gender roles are a social construct, and I know you believe that transgender and transexual people aren’t real. I know you believe I’m going to hell for not being a homophobe. I know that you totally get where I’m coming from, you just wish I was more friendly about it. I know you only want me to be more understanding of the bigots. I know you want me to know that you are only only trying to tell me that I can reach out to a wider group of people if I just compromise a little bit on my values, a little bit on my time. I know you think people won’t think of me as so much of a bitch if I just let them tone-police me and if I just let a few things go.


Well, I’d like to remind you of something you already know. I don't give a fuck. I’m glad you think I’m a bitch. I’m glad I intimidate you. I’m glad you’re too afraid to talk to me because you are right. I will shut you down and I will tell you to fuck off and that will be the end of the conversation. I embrace the label. I am a bitch. I’ve been one since the fifth grade. You have been trying since the fifth grade to shame me, to get me to shut up, to tell me I am a freak, to tell me my opinions are invalid. Try some more. Try your whole life. We can both pretend that I’ll be waiting.

18 comments:

  1. You sound like one of those unreasonable women so common to our generation but oft-times also found in the last.

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    1. Unreasonable for not being a homophobe? Unreasonable for acknowledging gender fluidity and not caging people in arbitrary, predefined boxes? Unreasonable for bot being a bigot? The way I see it, we need bitches like this one to silence people like you.

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    2. You sound like one of those Internet commenters who try to come across as witty but are actually judgemental bastards

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    1. Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the most repulsive, hiding-behind-anonymity-and-bad-mouthing-another-person, one of us all? ^
      Is that how much bigots hate themselves? They refuse to even embrace their identity on a public forum. Hahahahah!

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    2. sorry, that was too long to be a phrase. i think you are a sad person.

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  3. You are a person who has been oppressed and has seen injustice every day of her life. You are a bitch because you are not silenced by distractions and insults. Good on you, bitch.

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  4. Incidentally, I came across both, this beautiful sufi verse and your blog post right now; here's to you:

    Heera soi saraahiye, sahay ghanan ki choth
    (Only that diamond is praise-worthy, which can bear the blows of the hammer.)
    You're a diamond in the rough! More power to you. :)

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  5. Love ya! Weasal words and red herring aint gonna silence me anymore.

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  6. you think you're doing something great but youre just a big bob.
    now please stop doing daaaat ^^^

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  7. please take off your shart jaanu. you have very big bobs ( . )( . )

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    1. 'bobs' yyaaaarrrrr *facepalm*

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    2. 'shart' yyaaaaarrrrrr *double facepalm*

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  8. I think its commendable how you're acting out against all the haters. About time this country gets a taste of all the feminists out there. Our voices need to be heard. I don't know you, but whoever you are, good job.

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